One of the common practices I use when working with couples is to assign a date night. My expectation is that it happens at least one time weekly and that each person takes turns planning the date. Some common boundaries are that they treat it as if they weren’t married and they need to woo the other person again. Each also has to agree to try what the other has planned, and last but not least is that discussion on the date cannot be about kids or problems.
A common concern when given this assignment is “We can’t afford to add another cost to our budget?” My answer is that it doesn’t have to cost a lot if you use creativity. For creativity to work both partners have to be on board to accept new ideas and it has to be “All about the ‘woo’” and not trying to impress one another with cost.
Following are five ideas of how to be creative and keep it about the ‘woo’ and not the cost.
The entire point is to make the other spouse feel special and cherished. It doesn’t have to be a whole night but an hour or less that is spent trying to create a special feeling for your spouse. I’m sure others could be even more creative with limited resources but the most important part is to ‘woo’!
Karen Gotto, LMHC
Individual, Couples, and Family Therapist with offices in Jefferson and Carroll Iowa.