Being single, like being married, has its perks and its difficulties. One of those difficulties can be doing traditional family activities alone. Attending church is often looked at as a premiere family activity. A family may rarely be all together during the week but many times they make a special effort to be together for church on Sunday.
It doesn’t matter if you are widowed, divorced, or never married, walking into a church filled with families can be lonely and discouraging. Perhaps you are remembering the time in your life when your kids were home, and now they live far away with families of their own, or maybe you find yourself wishing for things that never happened. Either way, being in a space with many families may make you feel as if you are on the outside of the church family.
However, God calls us all to be a part of his church family and single people are an important part of that family. He does not want us to shy away from hearing his word and celebrating his Holy Communion. There are many things a single person can do to become a stronger member of his family.
So these feelings don’t drive a wedge between you and church worship, here are some helpful things you can try:
Overall, being single can be hard but there is an important place for you in your church family. You may just have to look to find it.
Manda Boothby, LMHC
Individual, Marriage and Family Therapist serving the Sioux City Area